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You should date and marry your best friend. This is someone with whom you can guarantee you will share a life of laughter, adventures, and support.
But you should know where to draw the line when it comes to sharing things with your partner. Some things can damage your relationship.
Here are some things you shouldn’t tell your partner, no matter how close you are.
You saved my life/I can’t live without you
Maybe your partner did save your life. Maybe you met them just at a time when you didn’t believe in yourself, when you didn’t have much of a social life because you were new to the area, and when you didn’t have self-love.
But don’t tell your partner you can’t live without him or her because you can. You did before and that’s a lot of pressure to put on somebody.
I did something crazy thing when I was single
You had a threesome, or stripped nude at a party, keep it to yourself. Everybody had their wild days. Unless you have one of the most open-minded partners in the world, your man will not want to know about this.
Your problem is not a big deal
Sometimes, people complain about things that you see as no big deal, and you want to tell them they are being big babies. But just because someone’s problem isn’t a big deal to you doesn’t mean that thing happening in their life doesn’t warrant your compassion and listening ear.
I don’t believe in your business idea
Men can be very sensitive when it comes to criticism about their careers. If your partner has a business idea that you think is doomed to failure but that he is genuinely excited about, don’t kill his dreams.
You can make subtle comments about ways he could perhaps adjust his plans, but you can’t tell him you don’t think it will work out. You might kill your relationship, along with his dreams. He needs to find out, on his own, where his business idea will take him.
My parents/friends agree with me on your flaws
You should understand that your partner is very sensitive to what your circle thinks of him. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes before telling them what your family thinks about him or her even if it would help you win an argument.
I had a s*x dream about somebody else
People have s*x dreams about people who aren’t their partners, but that doesn’t mean anything. Often, the sexual act represents something else. There’s no need to tell your partner this. Would you want to know if your partner had a sex dream about somebody else?
I had a dream you cheated on me
Perhaps lately you feel your partner has been more focused on his career than you, so you dream that your partner is having sex with his or her boss. If you tell your partner about this dream, he or she will feel like you are accusing them of something.
You look/sound weird during s*x
If you want to kill your s*x life forever, tell your partner that they look or sound funny during sex. How would you react if your partner told you that you looked funny on top? You would probably never get on top again. You would freeze up during sex. Let your partner make their funny sex noises in peace.
You clearly have baggage in this area
Unless your partner’s baggage causes fights between the two of you, you will have to leave them to sort it out on their own. If your partner comes to you, asking for guidance on the matter, then you can state that you have noticed they have problems in that area.
I just tolerate your friends
Most people merely tolerate their partner’s friends. But you are not dating his or her friends-you are dating him or her. Your partner wants you to feel completely comfortable having their friends over, and inviting them out with your friends too, without feeling they are doing you a favour. Make your partner feel comfortable about their friends. Your relationship will be better.
Credits: Kate Halim for Daily Sun